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Poster: Mandojammer Date: Jun 13, 2011 9:03am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

Sharing this helps me.....

Last Thursday I had to put down my dear friend Kenzie, my 12 1/2 year old Golden retriever, after an all too short but happy life.

I jotted some thoughts down that gave me and my family a lot of comfort and any of you who may be going through this, or have gone through it, I hope my words will give you some measure of comfort.

"The Last Thing"

'The last thing she saw, was me smiling at her,
The last thing she felt, was me stroking her head,
The last thing she heard, was me telling her she was a good girl,
The last thing she knew.......
She was loved'

Her pain is gone, mine is not. But in time my pain will be soothed by memories.

Thanks for letting me share......

Attachment: Kenzie.jpg
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Poster: user unknown Date: Jun 13, 2011 10:34am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

""The Last Thing"

'The last thing she saw, was me smiling at her,
The last thing she felt, was me stroking her head,
The last thing she heard, was me telling her she was a good girl,
The last thing she knew.......
She was loved'

Her pain is gone, mine is not. But in time my pain will be soothed by memories.

Thanks for letting me share......"

Thank you for sharing. That is a beautiful thought you jotted down.

When I went through a similar loss, I found this to be comforting.

"The Rainbow Bridge...(inspired by a Norse legend)

By the edge of a woods, at the foot of a hill,
Is a lush, green meadow where time stands still.
Where the friends of man and woman do run,
When their time on earth is over and done.

For here, between this world and the next,
Is a place where each beloved creature finds rest.
On this golden land, they wait and they play,
Till the Rainbow Bridge they cross over one day.

No more do they suffer, in pain or in sadness,
For here they are whole, their lives filled with gladness.
Their limbs are restored, their health renewed,
Their bodies have healed, with strength imbued.

They romp through the grass, without even a care,
Until one day they start, and sniff at the air.
All ears prick forward, eyes dart front and back,
Then all of a sudden, one breaks from the pack.

For just at that instant, their eyes have met;
Together again, both person and pet.
So they run to each other, these friends from long past,
The time of their parting is over at last.

The sadness they felt while they were apart,
Has turned into joy once more in each heart.
They embrace with a love that will last forever,
And then, side-by-side, they cross over… together."

© 1998 Steve and Diane Bodofsky. All Rights Reserved.

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Poster: robthewordsmith Date: Jun 13, 2011 10:32am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

I feel for you, Rick. When my samoyed's life was cut tragically short at the age of four I just broke my heart. I'm glad that you and Kenzie were able to have so many happy years together.

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Poster: dogsinapile! Date: Jun 13, 2011 10:38am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

So sorry to hear of your loss and thank you for your kind words of remembrance.
Here is a little poem that helped me through losing our beloved shepherd Sampson last year...

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.
-Mary Elizabeth Frye

They never really leave us.
Hang in there.

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Poster: micah6vs8 Date: Jun 13, 2011 10:06am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

What a beautiful dog Rick. You can see how much you loved her, and she you. She was your good girl, running to the door to meet you every time. I am sorry she passed. The best of good thoughts as you go through your grief. Sean

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Poster: Juan Peligro Date: Jun 14, 2011 1:56pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

I am sorry for your loss.

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Poster: Finster Baby Date: Jun 13, 2011 9:29am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

Very sorry for your loss Rick.
Always tough losing a faithful friend.
Hopefully, great memories will cause smiles to dry tears sooner rather than later.

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Poster: debris_slide Date: Jun 13, 2011 2:19pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

it's important to have those last moments with your friend before they put them down...however I was such an emotional wreck that I had to leave the room to collect myself and when I came back he was gone...I don't know if I'll ever really forgive myself for that but remember all our thoughts are with you pal.

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Poster: Diamondhead Date: Jun 13, 2011 1:09pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

Thanks for sharing this. Mine is going on 12 and we just did the cancer surgery bit last month. And I guess we're on the slippery slope to the last corral too. I'll make sure my wife and kid read this thread. Hope your sadness starts to pass soon as you remember all the good memories.

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Poster: amosearle Date: Jun 15, 2011 6:34am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

Arlo and I shall have a howl in your honor. Much respect in your time of mourning.

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Poster: ringolevio Date: Jun 14, 2011 4:54am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

Oh, I'm so sorry. I know what you're going through. The pictures are beautiful.

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Poster: neumannchloe Date: Jun 15, 2011 8:58pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

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Poster: Cliff Hucker Date: Jun 13, 2011 3:00pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

So sorry to hear about Kenzie, Mando. It's so difficult losing a pet, especially a Retriever!

Mason is sorry too! He's still a bit groggy. He just got back from the vet after having a hematoma in his ear drained...

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Poster: wineland Date: Jun 13, 2011 11:00am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

My heart goes out to you. We had to say good-bye to Marley last September. After 14 1/2 years you forget what it was like before your hound come into your life. Our family shared stories while looking at pictures and videos of Marley, it was very healing. Here's a picture of old him later in life.

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Poster: William Tell Date: Jun 13, 2011 10:12am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

Sorry to hear this, MJ; we went thru the same thing last yr--wait, almost one and a half now (jeezz) with Wyatt, shown here.

Hang in there...

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Poster: AltheaRose Date: Jun 13, 2011 11:02am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

I'm so sorry to hear that, Mando. We have two sweet dogs, one of them a street dog adopted here. It's said here that when dogs die, they reincarnate as people.

There's also a legend here about a sage who died and went to meet the gods in the company of his dog, but wasn't allowed in. "You can't come here with a dog," he was told. So he sighed and said, "Well, sorry, this dog has been so loyal to me that I just can't leave him." And he turned and left the gates of heaven. Then his dog spoke to him and revealed that he was really Vishnu, god of preservation, who had taken the form of the most loyal and loving creature on earth to see if the sage would reciprocate that loyalty and love. The sage would now be allowed to enter and meet the gods, since he had proven he could have as big a heart as a dog.

Which is not an easy thing ...


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Poster: jerlouvis Date: Jun 13, 2011 11:15am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

Mando,my cat that has been with me for 14 years has lymphoma and has about 1 or 2 months left and watching her demise is heartbreaking and I have been dreading the thought of that last visit to the vet,but now I will take strength from your words that the last thing she knew was love.Thanks and sorry for your loss.

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Poster: Mandojammer Date: Jun 13, 2011 3:26pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Many, Many Thanks

As much as I'd like to write a response post to each of you individually, that probably borders on excess.

Let me just offer my heartfelt thanks for all the kind words, thoughts and pictures from all of you.

I'm hoping today will be the first day I can go talk to her and put a flower on her stone without tearing up.

Mrs. Mando said it best the other day, she doesn't have pain inside, just waves of overwhelming sadness. I'm hoping that it's all the happy memories that keep filling us up and not letting the pain dig a pit inside of us...

Thanks to all of you.

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Poster: lillygetsthesquirrel Date: Jun 14, 2011 9:06am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Many, Many Thanks

Sad to hear it but thanks for posting it. Going through the decision with mine right now. Been thinking about putting her down for a year now. We're at that "quality of life" decision point, and it's hard to face. Hearing your stories helps me focus on what we have to do...

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Poster: Mandojammer Date: Jun 14, 2011 1:39pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Many, Many Thanks

lily -

Kenz was at the point where we had to carry her in and out of the house every 4 hours or so to do her business. She couldn't put any weight on her front left foreleg so the best she could manage was a three legged hop once we had her outside.

Since she couldn't move around well, she pretty much laid around in the same spot all day. We brought her food and water to her and got very good at reading her mood for food, drink or bathroom - or just to sit with her and pet her.

The worst part was her appetite was unchanged and she was as bright eyed and happy as she ever had been. Over time, she would cry out when I would pick her up and we could tell she was uncomfortable. I had to balance my selfish needs and wants with what we knew was best for her. Once the pain was obvious it was an easy, if heartwrenching call.

We were very fortunate to have a Vet that came to the house. I carried her to the backyard and sat with her under her favorite tree. She wasn't excited or anxious like she occasionally would get when we went to the Vet's for checkups. She very peacefully passed in my arms. It was the very least I could do.

I hope this helps - feel free to post a follow-up if you have any questions.

Like I said in my other post, I owe all of you a debt of gratitude for your kind words.

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Poster: robthewordsmith Date: Jun 14, 2011 2:20pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Many, Many Thanks

Rick - you're one of the finest human beings I ever encountered and I love you for that. And if anyone misreads anything in those sentiments then a stony silence will be their just reward.

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Poster: Mandojammer Date: Jun 15, 2011 2:35pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Many, Many Thanks

I appreciate that Rob. Trust me, the feeling is mutual.

I was reading through these comments at home the other day when a speck of dust got underneath each of my contacts and my eyes began watering profusely. Mrs. Mando looked up and asked what was wrong and what was I reading.

I told her I was reading a thread on the Grateful Dead forum. Normally that would have elicited an eye roll - but not his time. She just kind of smiled, teared up a little and let me continue healing.

You guys are all pretty amazing people.

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Poster: high flow Date: Jun 15, 2011 3:39pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Many, Many Thanks

This was indeed a touching thread. It is nice to know there are some many wonderful folks here.

Then, Mr Mando, your last post made me laugh and feel proud. And let me just say what a total stud you are for being so in touch with your emotions. (I say that with a staunch record as a life-long heterosexual male.)

The dust in your eyes reminded me of this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VY7kzdnpgJ4

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Poster: bluedevil Date: Jun 15, 2011 2:58pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Many, Many Thanks

Sorry I didn't post sooner, but please know my thoughts are with you and I understood and feel your lost.

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Poster: lillygetsthesquirrel Date: Jun 14, 2011 4:57pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Many, Many Thanks

You've pretty much described where we are. She's 13, and has use of all the legs, but has been incontinent for about two years now. The meds help to some degree, but wetting her bed is still just about a daily occurrence. She needs to get out at least every 4-5 hours, including the nights. We've gotten into a shift schedule where I'll stay up as late as possible and my wife gets up around 5am to do the morning, then it's a race to get someone home in time during the day to get that 4-5 hour window covered. She has pretty bad arthritis, it's hard to watch her try to get up. She has little to no energy, and after a 10 minute walk, she'll go into a near coma sleep for the next 3-4 hours. She walks about house wheezing for breath. She's been deaf for a year, and you can come home loudly open the door, stomp up to where she's lying, call her name, and she has no idea you're there. She can't even sense you anymore. She's just not really there anymore. There is the occasional burst of happiness, but it's not much.

Beyond the quality of her life issue, we're pretty worn out from the last two years. We feel trapped, in that we can't really leave without knowing the house will be trashed by her (can't trust the dog care to clean up and be as prompt as we are even though we are paying through the nose for 5 walks a day), and we can't take her with us because she'll destroy someone else's home.

It all adds up to one thing, and we've long since accepted it, but taking the next step is not as easy as typing it.

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Poster: high flow Date: Jun 14, 2011 2:30pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Many, Many Thanks

I can relate to these stories of caring for a beloved pet. I never imagined a person could form such a strong bond with a cat or dog until ours' became ill. Those little buggers are more than just cute and fuzzy. They really have a way into your heart. It was about 8 years ago and I've been reluctant to adopt a new pet.....perhaps we're getting close now. The kids would love a cat or dog.

Hmmmmmmm.:)

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Poster: TOOTMO Date: Jun 13, 2011 2:13pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

Sorry to hear about Kenzie.

I'm watching my ex-wife's dog, Gypsy, this week. She got Gypsy about a year after we split up and that was almost 15 years ago. Gyp don't handle the stairs very well anymore, nor does she beg to go for walks. And, I think our cat even senses Gyp's age because he seems to treat her nicer when she's visiting.

Keep your memories.
TOOTMO

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Poster: amosearle Date: Jun 15, 2011 6:34am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: More Sad News, some of you will get it (Non-Dead)

Forgot to add Arlo's pic:

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